I just had the great fortune of reviewing the program, Speaking with Toddlers, and was exceptionally satisfied.
I personally think that the number one goal of us moms and dads, even when our kids are still toddlers, is to be preparing them to one day be on their own and strive their dreams. Not simply agree the world and do OK, but definitely shoot and REACH for their complete capacity.
You should always be critiquing every type of parenting suggestion or design and ask yourself, “is this parenting design going to assist my young child find out to be creative, persistent, and motivated?” If that answer is no, then I neglect that strategy and keep on looking.
Sadly, most toddler obedience programs in the marketplace today do something that has actually been proven to squash a kid’s chances of ever reaching their full capacity, and rather produce more “workable kids”.
They achieve this by requiring a child to do something since “You’re The one in charge” rather of taking the kid’s perspective into view.
For instance, if your kid is climbing on the furniture all the time, and you are constantly telling him not to, you have two choices.
Option # 1: You can discipline the kid for not listening to you.
Option # 2: You can take an additional 2nd to ask yourself WHY is my child misbehaving like this, and how might I offer him a more acceptable method to misbehave.
When? choosing the first choice you end up showing your kid by example that his viewpoint is NOT exactly what is essential, COMPLIANCE is very important. so they’ll grow up to be the type of individual who just follows orders. (BAD)
However if you’ll take the little bit of additional mental effort that the second option requires, 75% of the time you’ll understand that your kid’s desire wasn’t rooted in evil.? Instead of just being disobedient, maybe your child simply felt like dominating a tough difficulty; and climbing up your home entertainment center was a gratifying experience.
So when you penalize your child for climbing up the furniture he discovers MUCH more then “I have to obey Mother”, he also discovers that Mother does not value his requirement to conquer obstacles. and even worse, “Mommy doesn’t want me trying to dominate difficult difficulties”.
I share this little example with you, because inside Speaking with Toddlers, you’ll find lots and lots of methods you can get your child to stop disobeying you, in a way where your toddler feels understood and that DOES N’T degrade natural desires like the have to dominate, continue, challenge themselves and be independent.
Mac Strider is an expert on habits adjustment & & learning. He runs 2 successful web based companies that permit him to work from house, and is a dad of two EXTREMELY happy kids. Have a look at his complete Speaking with Toddlers Review